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Change is part of life. It can range from a simple move, to a personal drama (such as illness or death), to the evolution of a relationship. Learning to adapt to these changes will help you feel more confident and confident about your own life. There are many types of moves and they are not experienced in the same way.

If you move to a new home near within your place of residence then things are usually relatively simple. Aside from a problem with the moving company you’ve been using or a disappointment about the reality of your new home, you’re not risking much.

If you move to a remote area, there is a good chance your move will be the starting point for a deeper life change: new job, new environment, new friends, new schools… Some times this comes out very well but many have not anticipated the energy that these changes would require. It is rare that the whole family finds its new benchmarks in the same period of time… is better to be welded.

Finally, if the move means “departure abroad”, leave nothing to chance: checklist is essential. Risks related to integration difficulties are real. Expatriation is also a chance, to discover a lifestyle that was not imagined, much more suited to your personality.

A move is (after a layoff or bereavement) the third anxiety factor. How to better manage stress?
The first factor of anxiety is economic. Mobility with a cost, one can see its income decrease while having to face a real or perceived decrease in its purchasing power.

Beyond this financial aspect, as a newcomer, you will face several challenges:

  • Isolation, loneliness,
  • The fear that children will have trouble integrating,
  • The loss of identity related to his new status,
  • The difficulty of finding real friends, – The reluctance to use local transport, for fear of getting lost.

The main tips to follow:

  • Go to meet the inhabitants, do not wait for someone to ask you
  • Be attentive to your spouse, your children: they may have had to give up more than you,
  • Do not hesitate to change the objectives that you had set,
  • Ask for help, if any,
  • Study precisely your “moving” budget.

How to better integrate into your new place of life?

You have probably made plans for your new life. In reality, there is a good chance that this will not happen as you dreamed. This does not mean that your new life will be bad. You have to put those expectations aside to let things happen naturally

Live the present.

Instead of making plans to try to improve your future or to think back to the good times of the past, enjoy every moment that you live in this new place. This new place will soon be so familiar that you will not even pay attention. So, enjoy discovering new places and things.

This new place will never be like the old one. You can not try to recreate your life before. If you feel that you are comparing this new place to the old one, stop! Tell yourself that things are different, and it’s not necessarily bad. Give this new life a chance to surprise you.
Know that you may not feel comfortable right away. It may take time to meet people who can become friends. And it will also take time to discover the region and its customs, find a good bakery, a bookstore or a gym.

Discover your new environment.

The first step to adapt to this new place is to get to know it. It’s not by staying locked in your home to think back to the past that you will be able to make your mark and make new friends. You must leave!

Join an association. Do something you like, whether it’s joining a book club or volunteering for a cause you support. Religious communities are also good integrators, if you are a believer. Otherwise, political parties or artistic clubs (choirs, knitting, sewing, handicrafts…) can also help you.

Go out with your co-workers. If you have moved for business reasons, ask your colleagues what are the best places to go out and invite them to accompany you. Even if you do not become friends with them, it can help you meet other people.

Talk to people. Try to have small conversations with the cashier at your supermarket, the person waiting for the bus next to you, the bookseller behind the counter or the waiter at the coffee shop. You will learn about your new city, meet people and be more comfortable with those around you.

According to a study cited in the Living Mobile Across Europe report published in 2010, people who have moved for less than a year and a half are at higher risk of stress than those who have moved for more than a year and half. This is due to a fairly long period of fragility after the move, an anxiety that tends to gradually decrease thereafter.

The sources of stress are numerous but generally, we manage to overcome them. On the other hand, everything must be done to preserve one’s relationship circle, otherwise one will find oneself isolated and helpless.

Before moving, give yourself time to leave your friends. Goodbye worthy of the name will facilitate your departure and will soothe you.

After the move, maintain close ties with your family even if you run out of time. Bring your close friends as soon as possible, you will be delighted to introduce them to your new region.

Finally, do not hesitate to change your plans: if you realize that things are not going as planned, give yourself the opportunity to go back … the family, it is also used for that. Be prepared for a culture shock. Even if you just move to a new city, you will see a change. This is even more true if you change state, if you move to the other side of the country, if you move from a village to a city or the opposite. There will be change, you must be prepared.